Slowly, slowly, organizations are moving to the right side of history.
Now, of course, there is a backlash. Men are furious and responding with everything from calls for boycotts to mass destruction of Gillette products. I do wonder what is going on in the minds of these men who have such a visceral need to defend rape culture and bullying.
Of course, the remedy Gillette offers to toxic masculinity is, well, less-toxic masculinity. The binary shall reign supreme, but men should just be a bit more… polite? So this video is quite incrementalist in its approach. And still, it’s easy to imagine the jitters in the boardroom before this was approved.
As for Gillette – let’s see if they stick with it. It’s not far enough, but it’s still a considerable step for a brand like that. If they hold firm, and move it forward… if they run this ad or one like it during the Super Bowl…
I might even consider buying their products again.
#MeToo and #TimesUp are more important than we might think because they show that we are starting to ascribe credibility to women approaching that which we automatically ascribe to men.
But this is about to get put to its toughest test yet when Christine Blasey Ford sits down with a Rethuglican Senate committee to fill them in on her violent run-in with Brett Kavanaugh, Pumpkin’s pick to fill the current vacancy on the Supreme Court (seeing as how Michael Cohen is not available).
I have visions of another Anita Hill situation. I hope not. But having faith in this patriarchal society to do the right thing by women is not much of a +EV position. Also, this way I remain capable of being pleasantly surprised.
In any case, a lawyer buddy of Kavanaugh’s tweeted last week (before Ford’s identity was even known)
“Wonder if accuser will say she was sober at time of alleged incident at drinking party. If drunk, how drunk? Cognitive dysfunction, impaired memory, mistaken identity, all compounded by 35 years? (I am of course not saying her drunkeness would excuse anyone else’s conduct.)”
So – he wonders if she was drunk. Then he assumes she was but wonders how much. Then he assumes however much she was drunk, it was plenty because she, of course, has all kinds of mental breakdowns as a result. Inability to think, or remember events, or identify people. And even though she was blind, blackout drunk (see what I did there?) it does not excuse someone else’s bad behavior toward her. But of course, none of this has the least little thing to do with his buddy, ol‘ Brett.
When he got called on this, his reply was along the lines of, Are you saying that extreme drunkenness does NOT cause these mental deficiencies? He’s already entered into evidence the fact that she was extremely drunk because… he imagined it, and he has a penis. So, QED.
No, it does not HAVE to go this way. Not now, in 2018. Not even with the pussy-grabber-in-chief squeezing his blackheads in the west wing. But is that the way to bet?
If you have been under a rock since 21:00 UTC yesterday, then you don’t yet know that a male judge at the US Open (tennis) managed to mark his territory by peeing all over the women’s final between Serena Williams and Naomi Osaka.
Never mind letting two great players slug it out! By Jove, he was not going to let any woman talk to him in any tone other than meek and deferential. So he ended up assessing Serena Williams penalties of a warning, a point and a game for offenses that somehow go unnoticed when the player committing them has a penis.
Serena, meanwhile, was able to take command of the situation with just the power of her persona. She did not need to hide behind any rules and arbitrary authority. When she commanded a stop to the booing in the stadium so that Osaka’s moment was not completely spoilt, the crowd obeyed her as if programmed to.
Osaka played a great match and this might not have been Serena’s day anyway. But to get slapped down by a sexist in the middle of her US Open final… that is an insult she should not have to bear. Not #thismama.
I was browsing New Yorker cartoons on Instagram and I found this cartoon. Then I did what they always warn you not to do: I looked at the comments.
rickjwise@washd_out oh boy… well do you talk to and look at nobody? Has no one EVER sexualized a stranger on the street while talking to you without you telling them that was wrong? Did nobody nearby you as a child ever claim you hit a girl because you liked her, or say « boys will be boys »? Did you call out EVERY boy in your middle school locker room who said things he shouldn’t about girls? Really, you have NEVER let a single sexist thing slide and you have never interrupted a woman, explained something to a woman and then found out she already knew, joked that any woman should make you a sandwich, or said the word « bitch » or « cunt » or « hoe » or « slut » in your entire life????? You have never been or allowed sexism in any way and have always used your privilege as a man to stand up for every single woman everywhere?? I guess you’ve proved me wrong, you’re a saint and there’s definitely no way that, because they are raised in a sexist culture, every man has sexism engrained [sic] into him by his surroundings from the day he’s born and accidentally and even maybe actively uses his privilege every single day
The point being – that even if you are not the guy in the cartoon, who would abuse equality by reasserting his privilege to oppress, you – we – have all been so steeped in these ways of oppressing women and POC and especially WOC that it’s hard to be sure you’re not doing it at any moment. You have to check. Check your…