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Random musings on whatever subject strikes my fancy that day.

Category: Feminism (Page 1 of 10)

Choice or Labor?

I told you about thisMore than once!

Wisconsin GOP lawmaker says women should be forced to give birth to grow the labor force

You like that, women?  “You will give birth to that rape-baby, so we can enslave employ it when it reaches the working age of 6.”  The billionaire criminals running the Rethuglican party think of us as one thing only: sources of cheapest possible labor.


Life Begins at Birth

Here’s a gorgeous refutation of all the phony arguments anti-choice zealots make against abortion.  It was put forth as a Twitter thread by SF author Patrick Tomlinson.  You can read a great account of it here

Man Shuts Down Anti-Abortion Argument By Asking One Question

But, allow me to summarize.  One single question smashes their “arguments” to powder: If you’re in a raging fire and you can save either a single five-year-old child, or a tray with one thousand frozen embryos (but not both!  Or all 1,002 of you die!), which one do you choose?

Sane and honest people know the one correct answer to this question: you save the backup tapes.  KIDDING!  Of course you save the child.  Nobody seriously places the moral or emotional equivalence of a child onto even a million fertilized eggs, never mind a thousand.  Not even the maniacs waving bad PhotoShopped posters and screaming at scared teenagers outside Planned Parenthood clinics.

Liars, one and all. Some of them just don’t know it yet.

So, please DO try this at home.  See if you can get an answer.  They don’t want to answer this question.  They will dodge it, or simply refuse to answer.  But hey, there’s always a chance that the cognitive dissonance this will create in one or two of them cracks the facade.  That will be a big, big win.



Nonsensical Rifle Addiction.

The gun, and the violence for which it’s a tool, is part of the definition of Manhood that is drummed into every American male from birth.

If we could end the manbox and racism, this would be a humane society or something.  One problem is, though, that “humane society” is something American men, steeped in the manbox bullshit, have been trained to disparage, not desire.

Fear Makes Ugly

Okay, okay.  If you read this space regularly, you know that one of my guilty pleasures is, that I read some advice columns.   Well, here’s a Q&A from yesterday’s installment of Dear Prudence that really nailed an important issue:

Q. LGBTQ…BGHMNHGRESDFE?: Love your column and your advice; however, after this week’s column I had to Google the term cis-man (maybe I don’t get out enough), and when I read the definition, I thought, Seriously?! Isn’t there enough nomenclature out there that cis-people can be identified simply as a man or a woman? Am I wrong that it implies that there are more transgender people than those who are comfortable in the sex they were born into, so they need to identify specifically with cis?

Frankly, I don’t care how anyone identifies—your sexual preferences have nothing to do with whether I like you or not! In fact, I’d be just as happy not knowing, because I just don’t care. Am I wrong that it seems we are bending too far in the opposite direction to make up for persecution in the past, to the point where the majority of us will have to refer to ourselves as non-LGBTQ?

A: You clearly do care a great deal how people identify, which is why you took time out of your day to write to me about it. There is nothing inherently wrong with caring about something, but it’s never a good idea to begin an argument by being disingenuous about one’s commitment to a particular ideal or practice.

You begin by confusing two very different practices. The existence of the word cis does not, as you are perfectly aware, mean that you cannot identify someone as “simply a man or a woman.” It is not illegal to call someone a man or a woman; nor is it broadly considered to be impolite. No one is preventing you from referring to yourself as a woman or a man, if you like.

The existence of the word cisgender does not in any way imply that there are more transgender people than otherwise, no more than the word Bostonian implies that most people are from Boston. It’s simply a word one can use to describe people who are from Boston. It simply names a condition that has heretofore been thought of as a reflexive, natural state of being that did not require any sort of identification or examination. (Much in the same way that heterosexual people once resented being identified as being “heterosexual” or having an identifiable sexuality of any kind, rather than simply “normal.”)

You seem to envision a future in which the majority will “have to” refer to themselves as non-LGBTQ (namely, a future in which you seem to fear a majority may get treated as a minority). Who do you think will force you to do so? What upsets or unsettles you at the prospect of naming your own gender identity? Why does the fact that the word cisgender exists create so much fear and antipathy in you, and why have you confused this extreme resentment with a state of “not caring”? Be willing to spend some time with these questions that unsettle you, and be honest about the fact that you are unsettled—there is much to discover, and much to think about, on this subject. I wish you luck.

She was way nicer than I would have been, but then she’s a professional.  I don’t think I would want her job, so I am glad that she does it.  Her Exacto-Knife dissection of the letter-writer’s real issue was very pleasing to read.  And the real issue is indeed fear.

When I first encountered the terms “homophobia” and “transphobia”, I thought they misidentified how their subjects felt about gay and trans people.  I took those words to be referring to a dislike, to the point of prejudice.  It took more study on my part, and some focused conversations with -phobes, to realize the words are spot-on.  Homophobes and transphobes are deathly afraid.

Fearful. Ugly. I rest my case.

They have been raised in a world where MEN are MEN and WOMEN are WOMEN and any deviation from the absolute definitions of those two categories is to be brutally excised. Well, they do not wish to be brutally excised.  But early on, they made the unconscious realization that gender, sexual orientation, and many other aspects of being a messy ol’ human are not digital binaries, but analog spectra.  With that realization came the also-unconscious realization that they themselves are not 100% whatever their at-birth identification ordained they must be, without variation, forever and ever.  So they clamp down hard on what they have been ordered to be, at the expense of what they really are.

And they have seen the penalties for venturing outside the box they were ordered into at the ripe old age of 10 seconds.  And they are afraid.  Fear seldom inspires admirable behavior.  Its effects are writ large on the political face of the country today.

For extra credit: anyone have an idea what BGHMNHGRESDFE stands for?

Size 0 or 2

I’ve told you this before, I’m going to tell you this now. Unless you are a size zero or two and you wear something like that, even though you’re not fat, you look fat.

That was Heather Taylor, the principal of Stratford High School in Goose Creek, South Carolina, to an assembly of 9th and 10th graders this week, about leggings.  Now, being a high school principal, I can see why she’d have no idea that girls in that age group are horribly sensitive to body-image issues, and prone to developing eating disorders.

And I am shocked, shocked that such a thing can happen in so progressive and nurturing an environment as South Carolina.

Oh. Wait.

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