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USWNT FTW WTG

The US Women’s National Team won the FIFA World Cup yesterday in a dominating performance over the Netherlands team.

Now she gets to not go to the f’ing White House
I can hardly wait

Little boys are wearing Rapinoe jerseys. This is a good thing.

And of course, Nike was ready

Venerate Life Until Birth

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This movement is all about controlling and shaming women. A strong argument can be made that unwanted pregnancies are not women’s responsibility. That responsibility is shared, unequally, by women and men. Women bear about 7% and men the other 93% based on the fact that women can have sex about 93% of the time (during their fertile years) without getting pregnant. Meanwhile, a man can impregnate someone ALL the time. In fact, this is probably an underestimate because their fertile years don’t fade out mid-life.

See this classic twitter thread for more about the disproportion, and also about men’s hideously inconsiderate refusal to act the least bit responsible for it all. Personally, I favor the mandatory-vasectomy policy but I can see the arguments for some of the other proposed measures.

Oh yes… their mistresses get full and completely confidential access.

Taking a Fresh Hatchet to The Man-Box

As you might know from reading older entries I am a huge non-fan of this thing we call the man-box. Well, recently I found a podcast and NY Times article that bring this issue to the foreground again.

Aymann Ismail comes out of Arab culture: one of the most stereotypically fecund sources of toxic masculinity. Honor killings, srlsly? If you needed a reminder that the man-box is deeply rooted in misogyny, there you have it. His podcast will show some of the personal aspects of what it’s like to journey out of that milieu. Highly recommended.

This distressing NY Times Magazine article tells how the author’s cousin was suddenly motivated to kill. A violation of a narrow idea of what being a man means brought hormonal rage dangerously to life in a lightning-quick moment. I found this hard to read in one sitting; I needed breaks.

I do believe that the most recent presidential election result and, not to be redundant, the decline of our civil society, is mainly due to basic American racism. But that said, I think the vast majority of the remainder is due to toxic masculinity. Abating or eliminating both of these would certainly result in a return to progress.


Some older material if you just can’t get enough:

http://www.acalltomen.org/news/2017/7/21/what-is-the-man-box

https://promundoglobal.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/TheManBox-Full-EN-Final-29.03.2017-POSTPRINT.v3-web.pdf

https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/the-history-of-the-man-box-e6eed6d895c4

https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/the-attack-on-gillettes-integrity-is-actually-a-larger-cultural-inoculation-cd1b1732a10b

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-man-box-the-link-between-emotional-suppression-and-male-violence/

https://theconversation.com/australian-study-reveals-the-dangers-of-toxic-masculinity-to-men-and-those-around-them-104694

https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2018-10/quot-wit101618.php

https://kottke.org/18/06/todays-masculinity-is-stifling

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/imagining-a-better-boyhood/562232/

https://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/573877/male-socialization/

Gillette Gets on Board

Slowly, slowly, organizations are moving to the right side of history.

Now, of course, there is a backlash. Men are furious and responding with everything from calls for boycotts to mass destruction of Gillette products. I do wonder what is going on in the minds of these men who have such a visceral need to defend rape culture and bullying.

Of course, the remedy Gillette offers to toxic masculinity is, well, less-toxic masculinity. The binary shall reign supreme, but men should just be a bit more… polite? So this video is quite incrementalist in its approach. And still, it’s easy to imagine the jitters in the boardroom before this was approved.

As for Gillette – let’s see if they stick with it. It’s not far enough, but it’s still a considerable step for a brand like that. If they hold firm, and move it forward… if they run this ad or one like it during the Super Bowl…

I might even consider buying their products again.

Conservatives Are Destroying Humanity

No exaggeration.  Read this (long-ish) piece  (click through this panel)

We can’t even frame it for them as a national security issue, because “national security” is masculine to them, and “the environment” is feminine.

We’re literally dying of the manbox.

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