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Venerate Life Until Birth

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This movement is all about controlling and shaming women. A strong argument can be made that unwanted pregnancies are not women’s responsibility. That responsibility is shared, unequally, by women and men. Women bear about 7% and men the other 93% based on the fact that women can have sex about 93% of the time (during their fertile years) without getting pregnant. Meanwhile, a man can impregnate someone ALL the time. In fact, this is probably an underestimate because their fertile years don’t fade out mid-life.

See this classic twitter thread for more about the disproportion, and also about men’s hideously inconsiderate refusal to act the least bit responsible for it all. Personally, I favor the mandatory-vasectomy policy but I can see the arguments for some of the other proposed measures.

Oh yes… their mistresses get full and completely confidential access.

Taking a Fresh Hatchet to The Man-Box

As you might know from reading older entries I am a huge non-fan of this thing we call the man-box. Well, recently I found a podcast and NY Times article that bring this issue to the foreground again.

Aymann Ismail comes out of Arab culture: one of the most stereotypically fecund sources of toxic masculinity. Honor killings, srlsly? If you needed a reminder that the man-box is deeply rooted in misogyny, there you have it. His podcast will show some of the personal aspects of what it’s like to journey out of that milieu. Highly recommended.

This distressing NY Times Magazine article tells how the author’s cousin was suddenly motivated to kill. A violation of a narrow idea of what being a man means brought hormonal rage dangerously to life in a lightning-quick moment. I found this hard to read in one sitting; I needed breaks.

I do believe that the most recent presidential election result and, not to be redundant, the decline of our civil society, is mainly due to basic American racism. But that said, I think the vast majority of the remainder is due to toxic masculinity. Abating or eliminating both of these would certainly result in a return to progress.


Some older material if you just can’t get enough:

http://www.acalltomen.org/news/2017/7/21/what-is-the-man-box

https://promundoglobal.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/TheManBox-Full-EN-Final-29.03.2017-POSTPRINT.v3-web.pdf

https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/the-history-of-the-man-box-e6eed6d895c4

https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/the-attack-on-gillettes-integrity-is-actually-a-larger-cultural-inoculation-cd1b1732a10b

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-man-box-the-link-between-emotional-suppression-and-male-violence/

https://theconversation.com/australian-study-reveals-the-dangers-of-toxic-masculinity-to-men-and-those-around-them-104694

https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2018-10/quot-wit101618.php

https://kottke.org/18/06/todays-masculinity-is-stifling

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/imagining-a-better-boyhood/562232/

https://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/573877/male-socialization/

Gillette Gets on Board

Slowly, slowly, organizations are moving to the right side of history.

Now, of course, there is a backlash. Men are furious and responding with everything from calls for boycotts to mass destruction of Gillette products. I do wonder what is going on in the minds of these men who have such a visceral need to defend rape culture and bullying.

Of course, the remedy Gillette offers to toxic masculinity is, well, less-toxic masculinity. The binary shall reign supreme, but men should just be a bit more… polite? So this video is quite incrementalist in its approach. And still, it’s easy to imagine the jitters in the boardroom before this was approved.

As for Gillette – let’s see if they stick with it. It’s not far enough, but it’s still a considerable step for a brand like that. If they hold firm, and move it forward… if they run this ad or one like it during the Super Bowl…

I might even consider buying their products again.

Conservatives Are Destroying Humanity

No exaggeration.  Read this (long-ish) piece  (click through this panel)

We can’t even frame it for them as a national security issue, because “national security” is masculine to them, and “the environment” is feminine.

We’re literally dying of the manbox.

Believe Women!

#MeToo and #TimesUp are more important than we might think because they show that we are starting to ascribe credibility to women approaching that which we automatically ascribe to men.

But this is about to get put to its toughest test yet when Christine Blasey Ford sits down with a Rethuglican Senate committee to fill them in on her violent run-in with Brett Kavanaugh, Pumpkin’s pick to fill the current vacancy on the Supreme Court (seeing as how Michael Cohen is not available).

I have visions of another Anita Hill situation.  I hope not.  But having faith in this patriarchal society to do the right thing by women is not much of a +EV position.  Also, this way I remain capable of being pleasantly surprised. 

In any case, a lawyer buddy of Kavanaugh’s tweeted last week (before Ford’s identity was even known)

“Wonder if accuser will say she was sober at time of alleged incident at drinking party. If drunk, how drunk? Cognitive dysfunction, impaired memory, mistaken identity, all compounded by 35 years? (I am of course not saying her drunkeness would excuse anyone else’s conduct.)”

So – he wonders if she was drunk.  Then he assumes she was but wonders how much.  Then he assumes however much she was drunk, it was plenty because she, of course, has all kinds of mental breakdowns as a result.  Inability to think, or remember events, or identify people.  And even though she was blind, blackout drunk (see what I did there?) it does not excuse someone else’s bad behavior toward her.  But of course, none of this has the least little thing to do with his buddy, ol‘ Brett.

When he got called on this, his reply was along the lines of, Are you saying that extreme drunkenness does NOT cause these mental deficiencies?  He’s already entered into evidence the fact that she was extremely drunk because… he imagined it, and he has a penis.  So, QED.

No, it does not HAVE to go this way.  Not now, in 2018.  Not even with the pussy-grabber-in-chief squeezing his blackheads in the west wing.  But is that the way to bet?

Surprise me, America.

via Rebecca Solnit, whose book, Men Explain Things to Me is the awesome and you should grab a copy RFN.

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