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Taking a Fresh Hatchet to The Man-Box

As you might know from reading older entries I am a huge non-fan of this thing we call the man-box. Well, recently I found a podcast and NY Times article that bring this issue to the foreground again.

Aymann Ismail comes out of Arab culture: one of the most stereotypically fecund sources of toxic masculinity. Honor killings, srlsly? If you needed a reminder that the man-box is deeply rooted in misogyny, there you have it. His podcast will show some of the personal aspects of what it’s like to journey out of that milieu. Highly recommended.

This distressing NY Times Magazine article tells how the author’s cousin was suddenly motivated to kill. A violation of a narrow idea of what being a man means brought hormonal rage dangerously to life in a lightning-quick moment. I found this hard to read in one sitting; I needed breaks.

I do believe that the most recent presidential election result and, not to be redundant, the decline of our civil society, is mainly due to basic American racism. But that said, I think the vast majority of the remainder is due to toxic masculinity. Abating or eliminating both of these would certainly result in a return to progress.


Some older material if you just can’t get enough:

http://www.acalltomen.org/news/2017/7/21/what-is-the-man-box

https://promundoglobal.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/TheManBox-Full-EN-Final-29.03.2017-POSTPRINT.v3-web.pdf

https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/the-history-of-the-man-box-e6eed6d895c4

https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/the-attack-on-gillettes-integrity-is-actually-a-larger-cultural-inoculation-cd1b1732a10b

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-man-box-the-link-between-emotional-suppression-and-male-violence/

https://theconversation.com/australian-study-reveals-the-dangers-of-toxic-masculinity-to-men-and-those-around-them-104694

https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2018-10/quot-wit101618.php

https://kottke.org/18/06/todays-masculinity-is-stifling

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/imagining-a-better-boyhood/562232/

https://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/573877/male-socialization/

Gillette Gets on Board

Slowly, slowly, organizations are moving to the right side of history.

Now, of course, there is a backlash. Men are furious and responding with everything from calls for boycotts to mass destruction of Gillette products. I do wonder what is going on in the minds of these men who have such a visceral need to defend rape culture and bullying.

Of course, the remedy Gillette offers to toxic masculinity is, well, less-toxic masculinity. The binary shall reign supreme, but men should just be a bit more… polite? So this video is quite incrementalist in its approach. And still, it’s easy to imagine the jitters in the boardroom before this was approved.

As for Gillette – let’s see if they stick with it. It’s not far enough, but it’s still a considerable step for a brand like that. If they hold firm, and move it forward… if they run this ad or one like it during the Super Bowl…

I might even consider buying their products again.

Conservatives Are Destroying Humanity

No exaggeration.  Read this (long-ish) piece  (click through this panel)

We can’t even frame it for them as a national security issue, because “national security” is masculine to them, and “the environment” is feminine.

We’re literally dying of the manbox.

This is Why I Block Ads

And why you should too.

Introducing, The Spinner!

Warning: this video is their ad, so take it with many grains of salt.  Like, the whole shaker.

The Spinner is a product that you, a shitty man, connive to have your victim wife install, unbeknownst to her, in her web browser.  Then it starts guiding the articles she sees on all websites she normally visits.  The intention is, to influence her to initiate sex with you.  Because, being the lump of excrement that you are, you have no other way to accomplish this lofty goal.

All the different dangers and creepiness of online ads have long since gelled in my mind to the simple idea that ads are evil.  In a way, I am grateful for this product.  It distills that concept to its purest form yet and provides a single concrete example I can point to.

And that all said, the same ideas and techniques are touted by all major online advertising platforms as a reason why one should engage their services.  They just manage to pull it off with less PUA flair.

Now that I have read these last 17 news items, I must go do my husband immediately!“, said no woman ever.

h/t @aral 

Instant Car-ma

We had a delicious – and all too rare – experience on the way home from work today.

An urban redneck in a Dodge Charger was tailgating us impatiently in moderate traffic where the road was two lanes.  61 in a 55 is never fast enough for these mucking forons.

As soon as the road widened, this dude flaunted his micropenis, took to the new lane, and kicked it into third gear, I guess.

He had to be doing north of 80 when we saw the lights up ahead.

We could not stop smiling, the rest of the way home.

 

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