Kahomono - It Means Lucky

Random musings on whatever subject strikes my fancy, published every other day.

Category: Feminism Page 2 of 15

Conservatives Are Destroying Humanity

No exaggeration.  Read this (long-ish) piece  (click through this panel)

We can’t even frame it for them as a national security issue, because “national security” is masculine to them, and “the environment” is feminine.

We’re literally dying of the manbox.

Believe Women!

#MeToo and #TimesUp are more important than we might think because they show that we are starting to ascribe credibility to women approaching that which we automatically ascribe to men.

But this is about to get put to its toughest test yet when Christine Blasey Ford sits down with a Rethuglican Senate committee to fill them in on her violent run-in with Brett Kavanaugh, Pumpkin’s pick to fill the current vacancy on the Supreme Court (seeing as how Michael Cohen is not available).

I have visions of another Anita Hill situation.  I hope not.  But having faith in this patriarchal society to do the right thing by women is not much of a +EV position.  Also, this way I remain capable of being pleasantly surprised. 

In any case, a lawyer buddy of Kavanaugh’s tweeted last week (before Ford’s identity was even known)

“Wonder if accuser will say she was sober at time of alleged incident at drinking party. If drunk, how drunk? Cognitive dysfunction, impaired memory, mistaken identity, all compounded by 35 years? (I am of course not saying her drunkeness would excuse anyone else’s conduct.)”

So – he wonders if she was drunk.  Then he assumes she was but wonders how much.  Then he assumes however much she was drunk, it was plenty because she, of course, has all kinds of mental breakdowns as a result.  Inability to think, or remember events, or identify people.  And even though she was blind, blackout drunk (see what I did there?) it does not excuse someone else’s bad behavior toward her.  But of course, none of this has the least little thing to do with his buddy, ol‘ Brett.

When he got called on this, his reply was along the lines of, Are you saying that extreme drunkenness does NOT cause these mental deficiencies?  He’s already entered into evidence the fact that she was extremely drunk because… he imagined it, and he has a penis.  So, QED.

No, it does not HAVE to go this way.  Not now, in 2018.  Not even with the pussy-grabber-in-chief squeezing his blackheads in the west wing.  But is that the way to bet?

Surprise me, America.

via Rebecca Solnit, whose book, Men Explain Things to Me is the awesome and you should grab a copy RFN.

Some Days Men Just Suck

Yesterday was one such day. 

If you have been under a rock since 21:00 UTC yesterday, then you don’t yet know that a male judge at the US Open (tennis) managed to mark his territory by peeing all over the women’s final between Serena Williams and Naomi Osaka. 

Never mind letting two great players slug it out!  By Jove, he was not going to let any woman talk to him in any tone other than meek and deferential.  So he ended up assessing Serena Williams penalties of a warning, a point and a game for offenses that somehow go unnoticed when the player committing them has a penis.

Roddick should know: he’s apparently been cut the very same slack by this very same umpire that Serena was not.

It’s an ancient sexist trope, and you’ve seen it a million times: women are pushy, men are assertive.  Women are sullen, men are taciturn.  Women are bossy, men are decisive.

‘Women are hysterical; men are outspoken’ – Billie Jean King comes to Serena Williams’ defence 

Serena, meanwhile, was able to take command of the situation with just the power of her persona.  She did not need to hide behind any rules and arbitrary authority.  When she commanded a stop to the booing in the stadium so that Osaka’s moment was not completely spoilt, the crowd obeyed her as if programmed to. 

Osaka played a great match and this might not have been Serena’s day anyway.  But to get slapped down by a sexist in the middle of her US Open final… that is an insult she should not have to bear.  Not #thismama. 


View this post on Instagram

A drawing by @lianafinck. #TNYcartoons

A post shared by The New Yorker Cartoons (@newyorkercartoons) on

Oops.  I looked at the comments.

I was browsing New Yorker cartoons on Instagram and I found this cartoon.  Then I did what they always warn you not to do: I looked at the comments.  

rickjwise@washd_out oh boy… well do you talk to and look at nobody? Has no one EVER sexualized a stranger on the street while talking to you without you telling them that was wrong? Did nobody nearby you as a child ever claim you hit a girl because you liked her, or say « boys will be boys »? Did you call out EVERY boy in your middle school locker room who said things he shouldn’t about girls? Really, you have NEVER let a single sexist thing slide and you have never interrupted a woman, explained something to a woman and then found out she already knew, joked that any woman should make you a sandwich, or said the word « bitch » or « cunt » or « hoe » or « slut » in your entire life????? You have never been or allowed sexism in any way and have always used your privilege as a man to stand up for every single woman everywhere?? I guess you’ve proved me wrong, you’re a saint and there’s definitely no way that, because they are raised in a sexist culture, every man has sexism engrained [sic] into him by his surroundings from the day he’s born and accidentally and even maybe actively uses his privilege every single day

The point being – that even if you are not the guy in the cartoon, who would abuse equality by reasserting his privilege to oppress, you – we – have all been so steeped in these ways of oppressing women and POC and especially WOC that it’s hard to be sure you’re not doing it at any moment.  You have to check.  Check your… 

Class?  Class? I can’t hear you!


This is Why I Block Ads

And why you should too.

Introducing, The Spinner!

Warning: this video is their ad, so take it with many grains of salt.  Like, the whole shaker.

The Spinner is a product that you, a shitty man, connive to have your victim wife install, unbeknownst to her, in her web browser.  Then it starts guiding the articles she sees on all websites she normally visits.  The intention is, to influence her to initiate sex with you.  Because, being the lump of excrement that you are, you have no other way to accomplish this lofty goal.

All the different dangers and creepiness of online ads have long since gelled in my mind to the simple idea that ads are evil.  In a way, I am grateful for this product.  It distills that concept to its purest form yet and provides a single concrete example I can point to.

And that all said, the same ideas and techniques are touted by all major online advertising platforms as a reason why one should engage their services.  They just manage to pull it off with less PUA flair.

Now that I have read these last 17 news items, I must go do my husband immediately!“, said no woman ever.

h/t @aral 

Page 2 of 15

Powered by WordPress & Theme by Anders Norén