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Wedding!

All that tiring travel yesterday was for a good reason!  My daughter got married!

Nechama Frier (right) and Katherine Hsi, RN at the Baltimore County Clerk’s Office 12/19/2016 Photo by Jill Frier  

The big celebration for this is planned for summer, but last month it suddenly became… timely… to get the legal wedding done before Jan 20.

And so it was!

More pictures after the fold

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Home again

Much travel complete, and we did an important thing.

So tired now.  More tomorrow.

Good night, Western Hemisphere

Safety Pin

pinned After Brexit achieved what is now the second-most idiotic and self-destructive political outcome of recent decades, many immigrants and other vulnerable people in the UK were fearful for their physical as well as political safety.  Decent people started wearing safety pins as a visible signal that here was someone willing to give assistance and comfort, to help deescalate a situation flaring up in public, and to work for justice for all humans and not just the nativists.  Well, now the safety-pin movement has come to America.

I’m glad it’s here, though I’m sad it’s needed here.  Sad, but not really surprised.  The racists and xenophobes have been heating up like tea in a microwave, Trump is just the spoonful of sugar* that makes it all go PLOOSH!  And people get burned.

If I can be the shelter from one difficult situation for one immigrant, black, Muslim, LGBTQ person or woman, it will be worth it.  I think of this as an obligation incurred by my unasked-for but undeniable privilege as a white, male, American-born person of no obvious religious affiliation.  Equally important to the desire to do this is to have a plan of how to act in the moment.  This article goes into detail and you should read it all.  But the outline is:

  1. Be aware of how your companions feel about “getting involved.” If someone tries to deter you, it may create a worse problem than you already face.
  2. Be aware if you are with others who increase the “attack surface”, e.g., children.
  3. Be sure the apparent target actually wants help.  You will have to read the situation carefully.
  4. Be able to respond, to whatever limit you know you are capable and willing.  For example, are able to, and willing to, oppose a violent physical attack?
  5. Plan to employ deescalation of the situation, first and foremost.  Here’s a good basic guide to that principle:

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Until President Pumpkin is exiled to whatever St. Helena will have him, I will be wearing a safety pin.


* – warning: do NOT try heating tea in a microwave and then adding sugar, unless you like first- and second-degree burns from scalding.  The water is superheated in spots, and the sugar crystals result in the instant formation of steam that propels hotter-than-boiling teas in all directions.

Standing Against Hate in Rochester

Hate crimes, encouraged and emboldened by the apparent electoral college victory of President Pumpkin, have sparked to life here in Rochester, NY.  Rainbow flags, displayed outside private homes, have been burned.

NOT ACCEPTABLE!

This is the home of Frederick Douglass, and Susan B. Anthony.  This is where the oldest continuously published LGBT newspaper in New York is published.

So today, we just got out and stood up against it.

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It was just a little neighborhood rally, thrown together on Facebook just this morning.  But when they bring 2 haters, we will bring out 200 loving neighbors.

They cannot win!

Photos by Jill Frier

Still Boycotting the Scouts

ldsThe Boy Scouts, that is. (Girl Scouts rock!  Two boxes of Thin Mints?  Yes, please!  THAT’S LUNCH!)

Today a Scout parent selling their popcorn at the office told me, but it’s all better now!  They allow LGBTQ leaders!

Well… no they don’t!  They no longer forbid them, that’s true. But it’s not the same thing at all.  The BSA have decided to duck right out of making any decision, and explicitly defer the rights of any minority to local majorities, however neolithic those might be.

From their release last July when they rolled out the non-change:

Chartered organizations will continue to select their adult leaders and religious chartered organizations may continue to use religious beliefs as criteria for selecting adult leaders, including matters of sexuality. This change allows Scouting’s members and parents to select local units, chartered to organizations with similar beliefs, that best meet the needs of their families. This change also respects the right of religious chartered organizations to choose adult volunteer leaders whose beliefs are consistent with their own.

So the more bigoted an area of the country it is, the more likely it is to have a Council that bans LGBTQ leadership.

And, in case you were wondering, the BSA national policy on atheists remains unchanged: God or GTFO.

I’ll get my popcorn from Orville Redenbacher, thanks anyway.

 

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